How can we compress our own ego?!

23 Mar

Learning to control your ego has many positive practical side effects.
Remember the following quote:

“The meek shall inherit the earth.”

Think about it. It has taken me a while to realise the benefits. I will admit that at the best of times,
my ego can be so huge I would need to widen my front door drastically just to get it out..lol.

Anyway, what I want to say is, so many people are dissatisfied with the way their lives are unfolding. They see themselves as automatons, as pinballs ricocheting aimlessly. And somehow, the plethora of pop psychologies, from cults to seminars, from ancient books of wisdom to contemporary best-sellers, fails to ameliorate.

Compressing our ego

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But…What is the EGO, SUPEREGO AND ID??

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Let me define what an ego, superego and id are first of all..once we know what they are..we can think about how we can compress our ego to turn it to our own advantage in our daily lives..
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All of us have a choir of voices on the inside — parts of us that beg to be noticed, and sporadically offer their opinions. It is as if the decisions we make are by consensus. We can divide the parts of our minds into those that are the seat of our basic instincts and desires and those that act as our conscience. These two divisions were described by Freud who named them the Id and the Superego respectively.

Freud also described a third part of the mind which he called the Ego. The Ego exists as an agent to act for us in the outside world. It is the Ego that we identify as being “Me”. The Ego is constantly balancing the demands of the Id against our external environment and the moral code of the Superego (literally, “above the Ego”).

We are now in a position to understand our quandary. Often, the Ego decides to do something (like write a poem) and it immediately must come to terms with the Superego (which tells us that we really ought to be washing the dishes), and the Id (which would rather eat an ice cream cone) 🙂 good, isnt it?? The distinguishing feature of a person who has “gotten it together” is that he has developed a strong Ego, one that can negotiate wisely with the demands of both the Id and the Superego, and when necessary, take control. (Note, having a strong ego is not at all the same as being egotistical.)

That is the skill that you must develop if you are to “get it together”. During those board meetings of your mind, when all the voices are arguing and demanding their way, you (your Ego) must be firm and look out for your interests as a whole.
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But how do we compress our ego?

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Bottom line in my opinion is:
1. Stop reacting so much and taking stuff to heart.
2. Do not take stuff personally and well believe in yourself more.
3. Speak less and listen more.

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5 Responses to “How can we compress our own ego?!”

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