How to know if its infatuation or love??

9 Jun

I read this article and so am going to post it on my page… because I find the concept interesting..how do you really know that what you are feeling for another person is actually love or infatuation. Time certainly gives you the answer.

REMEMBER: love and infatuation are NOT the same things at all.

For me, I always love the person I am with BUT what if the person you are with is ONLY infatuated with you. How can you know if its indeed infatuation or true love…. going to put the article here.. enjoy….sadly if a person is JUST infatuated with you, they may not necessarily love you…but may be just attracted to you physically..and whenever that becomes routine it dries up and ends UNLESS they are REALLY willing to make it work and love YOU FOR WHO YOU ARE…if they don’t accept you how you are then it won’t last the distance. Love never asks a person to CHANGE THEMSELVES to meet THEIR requirements. Time will always give you the answers you seek.

So chin up WHATEVER happens… 🙂 personal happiness starts with ourselves first. You can never rely on your other half in terms of making you happy otherwise you are doing an injustice to yourself… look at what Michael Jackson says in his Man in the Mirror song: …“if you want to make the world a better place, take a look at yourself, and make a change….I’m starting with the man in the mirror”. Let’s adapt that to also read woman too!

Red Flag Alert: “You are my life. I can’t live without you.”
If you have said that sentence to your other half…read on… you may be surprised.

Here is how to know its just infatuation:

There are some feelings we have when infatuated that we don’t have when we’re feeling love. Some of the “symptoms” of infatuation are; feelings of panic, uncertainty, overpowering lust, feverish excitement, impatience, and/or jealously.

When infatuated, we are thrilled, but not happy, wanting to trust, yet suspicious. There are lingering, nagging doubts about our “partner in infatuation” and their love for us. We’re miserable when they’re away, almost like we’re not complete unless we’re with them. It’s a rush and it’s intense. It’s difficult to concentrate. And most infatuation relationships have a high degree of sexual charge around them. Somehow being with them is not complete unless in ends in some type of sexual encounter.

Do any of these “symptoms” resemble feelings of love? Hardly. So why do we become infatuated? Where does it come from? Perhaps it’s biological.

THE SCIENCE PART:

When infatuated we experience a surge of dopamine that rushes through the brain causing us to feel good. Norepinephrine flows through the brain stimulating production of adrenaline (pounding heart). Phenylethalimine (found in chocolate) creates a feeling of bliss. Irrational romantic sentiments may be caused by oxytocin, a primary sexual arousal hormone that signals orgasm and feelings of emotional attachment. Together these chemicals sometimes override the brain activity that governs logic.

The body can build up tolerances to these chemicals so it takes more of the substance to get that special feeling of infatuation. People who jump from relationship to relationship may be craving the intoxicating effects of these substances and may be “infatuation junkies”.

BOTTOM LINE: why did your relationship end?? well if that is a mystery to you…it could be JUST because of this:

When the chemical flood dries up, the relationship either moves into a loving romantic one or there is disillusionment, and the relationship ends.

CONCLUSION: it can either:

1) turn into a love relationship and last yayyyy OR
2) it can abruptly end suddenly due to a chemical change and a drought.

If things dried up, its not YOUR fault.

REMEMBER: You have a life too and your life doesn’t solely revolve around them or seeking their approval on everything…chalk it up to experience and learn from it… take care..B

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3 Responses to “How to know if its infatuation or love??”

  1. Talk to me...I'm your Mother 10/06/2009 at 1:21 pm #

    This is a good one! Wish we always picked up on it quickly.

    • justbarbara 10/06/2009 at 1:38 pm #

      Yes indeed 🙂 I just wish we could install a plug-in into our minds to stop this from happening to people…

  2. Vidhi 02/07/2011 at 7:33 am #

    Hey Nice article above; also would appreciate if u add an article on How to have fun on the Job and make it even more interesting….(you know those phases where u just fbiing… :-/)
    Thanks 🙂

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